It is apparent that in the past, the Sarong Party Girl hardly qualified as a femme fatale since there was a discernible imbalance in power between her and her Caucasian partner. She was the dominated, not the dominator. While she most certainly could have been seductive in appearance and mannerisms, her Caucasian partner was as most often was the case, no unsuspecting fool himself.

        This generalized feature of the relationship between the Sarong Party Girl and her Caucasian beau has been enduring over time. Undoubtedly, the present-day Sarong Party Girl has evolved into a more sophisticated and confident woman, possessing more wily charms than her predecessor.

        However, as it was the case then and as it is the case now, she is still the dominated, not the dominator. I qualify this opinion of mine from what I have heard being admitted to me by Caucasian males themselves. Lest you think I’m speaking from the experience as a Sarong Party Girl, I’ll add that my experience in dealing with Caucasian males in Singapore stem largely from my experience of working alongside them during my internship.

        Apparently, our Sarong Party Girl is quite a notorious figure in the expatriate community in Singapore. The Caucasian male newcomers are regaled with tales of the Sarong Party Girl, as a warning of the kind of reception that they should expect from some of the local girls when they frequent clubs/pubs.

        In addition, they are also reassured that their love life would hardly be left high and dry in Singapore because there are many ladies who would be willing recipients of their attention and seductive charms. Commitment-phobic players rejoice when they realize that they can form casual, non-committal ties with the Sarong Party Girls without having to proffer promises of “I dos” and “happily ever afters.”

        However, thus far, I have yet been able to make an effective case to justify the need to deride the Sarong Party Girl for her eagerness in molding her appearance and mannerisms to suit the taste of her Caucasian beau. Neither have I made an effective case to justify denouncing the Caucasian male as immoral for his blaze attitude towards his relationship with the Sarong Party Girl.

        And, I won’t.

        The act of changing one’s appearance and mannerisms to gain greater favour with one’s beau is not unique to the Sarong Party Girl. Many females who’re dating local men are equally guilty of such behavior. Being biased towards the race of one’s beau is also hardly a novelty since Asians have predominantly exhibited such biasness for a long time now.

        The only difference is that we have traditionally been biased towards dating people who are from the same racial background as ourselves, instead of being biased towards dating people from a different racial background, as in the case of the Sarong Party Girl.

        Moreover, being agreeable to the power imbalance in a relationship is again a normal stance of many females who’re dating local men. Similarly, being blaze about commitment in a relationship is unfortunately becoming an increasingly naturalized attitude in this part of the world as well. There is really no point in finger-pointing the Caucasian male for this behavior.

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