H O O K E D - You Never Change, Do You?

You Never Change, Do You?

Written by Darrel Chua & Yeo Zhi Qi

The common notion that men are from Mars and women are from Venus clearly divides us into types and this speaks volumes about the attitudes that each gender harbors towards the other's behavioral traits.

So what is a Timeless issue without talking about the timeless traits that the other gender has, which grates us and yet makes us appreciate them? Well, we may not be able to change the other, but we sure can change our attitudes towards them!

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He says: Love or hate them, here are some characteristics that you girls hold eternal.

She says: Like how you guys have your eyes glued on the screen watching twenty-two people chase after a ball, these traits are stuck on you for eternity.

1. It's just emotions...

He says: It can be so frustrating when you take us on a roller-coaster ride of emotions.

        We just can't keep up with the pace of ups and downs that you go through. From being a happy, bubbly character to a sulky, moody old grump in a blink of an eye. The issue we take up is that you drag us along for the ride, whether we like it or not and we don't even realize what hit us.

        We don't ask for much, just a little consistency please. Oh and the excuse that it's that time of the month can only be used once per month, not on a weekly basis!

        She says: It is equally annoying when you base everything on your wise and mighty assumptions, instead of opening your golden mouth to ask.

        Dinner venue, favourite colour, movie choice, everything is decided by you because you are the man and you'd most definitely know best.

        You think you are great at mind reading, and so answer every question on our behalf. I'm sorry those tarot cards don't work, we'd appreciate it if you ask us for our opinions before jumping into your little wonderful conclusions and accuse us of having mood swings twenty-four-seven.

...taking me over.

He says: We do appreciate the fact that you get so emotionally involved in a relationship though. Being able to feel so passionately and to be completely immersed in someone or something is something which the male gender - sadly - lacks.

The way you love us as a partner makes us almost guilty or unworthy of the affection that we are receiving. The little things that you do, the words that you say - we just stand back in admiration and shame.

She says: The level of commitment and amount of dedication that we invest into the relationship do not compare to all the times you readily give in to us. Just a crease on the forehead, or a little grunt and you would be pacifying us, even if the fault clearly lies with us.

You take great pains to ensure that we are never ever in the wrong and we appreciate that.

2. Beauty in the eyes of the beholder

        He says: You make us feel special. The manner in which you are able to look past the superficial in a relationship is an ability which you ladies hold your own.

        Granted, most Singaporean men aren't the best physical specimen of the male gender, but still, you are able to get past that and love us for who we are. Guys, unfortunately, take much longer or are completely blind beyond the physical aspect of the opposite sex.

        She says: Alright now, get your eyes off the girl in the black tube dress, yes, I am sitting next to you. No, not the other girl, I am here, I am here.

        Everything that can be compared, will be compared. You place under the magnifying glass and scrutinize everything from the shade of our hair to the curves of our bodies. You complain that we spend too long "getting ready" and complain again (silently) when we don't look half as good as that hot lady walking past you.

        You tell us that beauty is skin deep but your eyes speak otherwise, as they roam around the restaurant following the hottest girls.

3. Geek chic

martha_stewarts_baking_handbook_1 He says: As much as you reject this idea, there's always a little of Martha Stewart in all of you. And we love it!

The brownies that you bake; the coordination of your accessories with your clothes, the organization of your room - don't deny that you love doing a little of each of them. It's endearing to us and we find it rather cute and attractive!

        She says: And we love how you're a technician on standby.

        Whenever the laptop hangs, the wireless network doesn't work; our girlfriends are no help at all. You are brilliant with machines and all things high-definition, and we love your ever-expanding knowledge on technology.

        Of course, we know you get a kick out of being the hero to us damsels in distress!

4. Make up your mind already!

        He says: It's a pet peeve we guys have.

        You have already been in the shower for an hour and we are running late for that movie or event. You try on a dress and ask how it looks. We approve. You disagree and change to a top and jeans. We approve again. This process repeats itself and an hour later, we leave the house and you are wearing the dress that you first put on! Enough said.

She says: If we take forever, your male ego takes us eternity to get to our destination.

We are lost, we have been turning around in circles on the same spot seven times and you insist you know where you're going. You refuse to seek help from strangers and always reply confidently that the place is "just around the corner." To protect your fragile ego, you even object to us asking for directions from a passerby, because it is just so embarrassing for you.

5. Gossip girl here - xoxo

        He says: A little dose of daily gossip does not do any harm. We guys even partake in it. It can be fun and therapeutic, but only when done in moderation.

        To see a group of girls giggling and speaking in hushed overtones all the time is so exasperating. It annoys us, and it doesn't augur well for your image either.

        She says: Now, now, don't you accuse us of gossiping because you guys love to share your date (and bed) experiences with each other.

        You bare it all to your buddies, sharing the most personal and intimate details of your girlfriends. Well, we are guilty of that too, so I guess that makes us quits. Hooked

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Comments
Written by Guest on 2008-03-12 01:15:24
i'm flattened
Written by Guest on 2008-03-12 01:16:48
:grin
Written by Guest on 2008-03-12 03:21:10
:zzz
Written by Guest on 2008-03-12 03:22:25

boring
Written by Guest on 2008-03-12 04:43:45
Hahaha... well written :grin especially the guys ego thing abt asking directions is really true... experience speaks
Written by Guest on 2008-03-12 05:13:44
Generally true.. :grin
Written by Guest on 2008-03-12 10:16:33
nice article...no bias.. plain truth at least for most part of it
boring
Written by Guest on 2008-03-12 12:02:16
:zzz

another pointless piece of "arranged english" probably ripped from crappy books like "men are from mars, blah blah"

I tell you, I am a guy, and I absolutely love baking and cooking and gossiping and I installed my own grid computing network in my house. Never in my life have I hesitated to ask for help or directions, and I think those who don't are not merely being "guy" but just being plain stupid... And none of the girls I know do the stuff above and I really wish I could meet one that does. Why don't you ppl, FOR ONCE, write something actuallly serious???
Written by Guest on 2008-03-14 01:10:35
This article merely plays on ridiculous stereotypes.
Written by Guest on 2008-03-14 04:48:08
this article is also a column. and as such columns are biased based on the writer's own opinions. GET OVER IT you guys. So they're stereotypes, and so what? stereotypes are truths as well.
Written by Guest on 2008-03-16 15:59:21
I have a better word for this. It's rubbish.

For one, I am a guy and I never watch soccer. Never. I always ask for opinions when it comes to decisions that not only concerns me. Same thing for directions.

As for stereotypes and columns, well, I can see why its true: columns are usually rubbish.
Written by Guest on 2008-03-16 21:07:52
that direction notion is seriously cliche. for some ego reasons, most guys these days have GPS. and i assure u they are madly proud over consulting their lastest gadget then telling u that they know the direction confidently.
Written by Guest on 2008-03-17 10:16:11
naaa. i dun think so. :roll
Written by Guest on 2008-03-18 08:15:59
just a stack of untruth.

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